My transsexual transition timetable

See my overview on transition for thoughts on how to plan your transition.

It took me almost 4 years all told to have physically transitioned from start to finish. It would be difficult to do it much more quickly than that. The emotional aspects of transition continue for many years after the physical aspects are done.

I was able to adhere to the rough plan plan I laid out pretty closely. The key for me was keeping my job in order to pay for all this, so I waited until the last possible moment to transition at work. By the time I came out at work, I had few problems being accepted as female, which often makes it easier for others to accept. It also meant that if I were fired, I could interview in female mode without TS issues necessarily coming up as an issue. I believe this is extremely important.

I urge everyone to lay out a similar plan for transition, focusing on what's most important to you. In my case, I spent about a year after I came out hoping I could continue my relationship with my partner, but we eventually concluded that we didn't think that would work. During the time we tried to find a compromise, we agreed to what I would and wouldn't do. Once we decided to separate, I began working on physical changes in earnest.

Since most of us make our decisions based on financial constraints, I strongly recommend planning in terms of financial issues. See the table below for considerations as you put together a timetable.

prior to 1995     Deep denial, with occasional recognition of feelings always dismissed as wrong, impossible, ridiculous, etc.
1995

January

   
 

February

   
 

March

   
 

April

  Got computer with internet capability (4/12). Began online research (4/15). Came out to my partner (4/30)
 

May

  Began facial electrolysis (5/3)
 

June

  Began growing out hair (6/1)
 

July

  Researched via books, films, organizations, and Standards of Care.
 

August

  Began therapy (8/15)
 

September

   
 

October

   
 

November

  Came out to some of my partner's friends (11/25)
 

December

  Able to clear face at each electrolysis session (12/1)
1996

January

  Chose my name after careful consideration
 

February

  Began researching financial issues (should have started sooner)
 

March

   
 

April

   
 

May

  Stored sperm (5/3)
 

June

  Began coming out to other family and friends (6/22), Rented a separate apartment (6/30)
 

July

  Moved apart from my partner (7/15), Began hormones (7/15)
 

August

  Began working on voice (8/1)
 

September

   
 

October

  Bad hair transplants (later removed) (10/11)
 

November

  Last time I shaved my face
 

December

  Face surgery: Scalp advance, forehead recontouring, brow lift, trachea shave with Ousterhout in S.F. (12/12)
1997

January

  Started work journal, collecting documents (1/1)
 

February

   
 

March

   
 

April

   
 

May

   
 

June

  Hair transplants with Ousterhout in S.F. (6/11)
 

July

   
 

August

   
 

September

   
 

October

   
 

November

   
 

December

  Face surgery: Jaw, chin, nose, hair transplants (12/12)
1998

January

  Legal name change: (1/9). Driver's license/Social Security (1/10). No more weekly facial electrolysis (1/1)
 

February

  Came out at work and went full-time (2/1). Switched all financial documents (2/6). Scheduled vaginoplasty (2/8)
 

March

  Began genital electrolysis (3/1). Got first vaginoplasty letter (3/30)
 

April

  Got second vaginoplasty letter (4/10). Visited Meltzer's office (4/13)
 

May

   
 

June

  Vaginoplasty and breast augmentation with Meltzer in Portland (6/16)
 

July

  Return to work (7/13)
 

August

   
 

September

   
 

October

  Labiaplasty with Meltzer in Portland (10/28)
 

November

   
 

December

   
1999 onward     Adjusting to new social role (this is the true transition)