Transsexual people and family issues
One of the most difficult parts of transition is gaining acceptance from your
family. Luckily, more and more families are being understanding and accepting.
This section is designed to help you talk to family in ways that will address
their concerns and help them come to terms with the news.
Coming out to family and friends is a different matter than coming
out at work.
I have some comments and suggestions on coming
out to parents in my early transition section. Some applies to anyone who
plans to tell her family.
Letters to Loved ones
A selection of letters that might assist in creating your own.
A nice essay by Gianna Israel, courtesy Diane Wilson's site.
Why bother coming out?
Another useful essay by Gianna Israel, courtesy Diane Wilson's site.
For parents of someone in transition
LINK: TransYouth Family Allies: The major national resource for parents of trans youth.
LINK: TransKids Purple Rainbow Foundation: Advocacy group by parents of transgender children
LINK: Gender and Sexuality Psychosocial Programs (Children's National Medical Center)
Their goal is "to support and affirm young children with gender-variant behaviors so that they can grow and develop healthy self-esteem and positive social participation."
Resources for Families
If you are concerned about your child's gender behaviors (PDF)
Mom, I Need To Be A Girl
The classic book by a mom who helped her daughter transition in her teens.
Also in Spanish and French.
Transitioning early in life
Some inspirational information from Lynn Conway.
Understanding Transgender Children
An ABC News report.
Postoperative psychological functioning
of adolescent transsexuals
A published paper showing that those who transition as teens are well-adjusted
and stable after transition in proportion with the non-transgender population.
For parents who transition
Paula Funatake has compiled the primary resource for materials on family
My transsexual father
Stephen Gunther is a psychologist who shared his experiences when his male-to-female
Michael Kantaras Court TV coverage
In 2003, Mr. Kantaras won a highly publicized custody battle in Florida,
considered a significant legal victory for transsexuals, although he later renegotiated the arrangement.
Transsexuals and Divorce
A Philosophical essay on the matter by Kristina Maia-DeMott.
For spouses and partners of someone in transition
When You Love the One You're With...
By the wife of a MtF. Highly recommended.
The TG Partners Page
Personal stories from SOs of transsexuals.
Links and resources maintained by the spouse of a transwoman.
How lies affect the spouses of TGs
By the the ex-spouse of a trans woman.
Transition and divorce
A response from a reader to How lies affect the spouses of TGs
Another response from a reader to How lies affect the spouses of TGs
The Straight Spouse Network
Transsexual Person in Your Life (from tsfaq.info)
The Divorce Support Page
Journey of Hearts
An online healing place for anyone grieving a loss
A Yahoo group and mailing list for non-trans female partners of MtF transsexuals
Partners of men
A LiveJournal community for partners of FtM transsexuals